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Adrienne Asher's avatar

I just wrote this :

THEY DON'T WANT US TO SAY GAY

They don't want us to say Gay

Lesbian , Bi , Trans, or Q

We can't talk about it in school

But here's what we CAN do .

We can support friends and family

With all our love and grace

Show them that we care

And give them a safe space .

We can be there for them

Each and every single day

But the best thing we can do

Is to keep on saying Gay .

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Ronda C.'s avatar

Nice!

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Adrienne Asher's avatar

Thank you !

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Cheryl Salvati's avatar

good one :)

considering 25% of adults are presumed to be LGBTQ, I would think Floridians would shut down DeSantis. I am very surprised there are not more street protests

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Phil Davis's avatar

I had a brother who was gay. Kindest man you you could ever meet. Not with us anymore. But he did make this world a Better Place💜

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Ian Mark Sirota's avatar

Florida's "Don't Say Gay" law is an absolute abomination. I won't spend another penny in the State if I can help it, and Disney's silence on the legislation is absolutely despicable. It may be a corporate giant in terms of earnings and wealth, but it is tiny indeed when it comes to doing the moral or right thing.

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Caroline Good's avatar

"Don't Say Gay" sounds like something a child would ask just to be contrarian. Makes no sense really.

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Karen Thomas's avatar

WOW! Riveting, heart-pumping staccato pace communique! I am left breathless for a moment while I digest the huge quantity of information - even with your exquisite clarity these snapshots of all that is swirling and whirling in our world, our lives will take the rest of the day to digest! THANK YOU - i APPRECIATE YOU!

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Mellanie Lynn Cromwell's avatar

I couldn’t have said it better. Mary gave us a snapshot with more clarity then any one could. Thank you Mary

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Marian Wiggins's avatar

GAY! Gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, GAY!

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Barb Albrecht's avatar

and more gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, GAY!

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Reine's avatar

I am happy to be nonbinary. I am grateful to be able to claim my self and to live my life openly. It isn't always easy when old friends start to let go. BUT... those who are still with me are the best in my life.

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Gina Fant-Simon's avatar

I so appreciate you and making the time to help keep us all informed and motivated to make a positive difference in this chaotic world that I no longer recognize. I’m in Austin, Texas and a precinct chair and trying to wake people up to step up and do something to help. All of my friends are Democrats but I am starting to see the sad truth that most Democrats won’t step up, they barely vote, they are pretty much politically illiterate. If you ask any Texan, “who is your State Senator?”, 99% of the time they answer Ted Cruz or John Cornyn. I say, “no that’s your US Senator and then they get a glazed look on their faces and admit they don’t keep up with Texas politics. So, how can we be a strong United front fighting for democracy when most logical, moderate or progressive leaning Texans are politically illiterate and completely unaware of what’s happening? I can’t get my smart, successful friends to come to a fundraiser or a voter’s rights rally. They are so self-involved… I feel hopeless about Texas right now… only 8% voted in my county in the primary… The far right and their corruption should absolutely be condemned, but equally responsible are the people who choose to live with their heads in the sand. I wish I knew what to do. But Thank you again - you always give me hope, strength and insight.

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Ace's avatar

The numbers may vary by state, but what you said is unfortunately true. For progressive people, Democrats ignore the opportunities to make their voice heard. Voting is a privilege known to precious few in this world.

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Judy Maruffi's avatar

I really appreciated the info on “Anti Grooming.” I had not heard that before. It stunned me. They name their hatred! What small minds these people have. Children usually choose the path of least resistance. Why can’t they just believe them? Thanks Mary. Keep up the good work!

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Jonji's avatar

Us parents of gay children were already worried enough. The hatred and lack of empathy is the most saddening to me. Also, GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

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Reine's avatar

🏳️‍🌈My parents were embarrassed by me. Your children are fortunate to have your love and support.🏳️‍🌈

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Judy Maruffi's avatar

So sorry you received that message from your parents. Saying “that must have been difficult is an understatement.

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Reine's avatar

Judy, thank you. I am feeling much better having faced it and said it.

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Judy Maruffi's avatar

Funny how that works! I think you are brave and strong and amazing!

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Reine's avatar

♥️

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Ronda C.'s avatar

I totally agree! Also, I'm sorry to hear about your parents' difficulty. I hope it got resolved for you.

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Ronda C.'s avatar

Maureen, I received an email in my inbox yesterday with a notice of reply comment from you, but when I tried to view/respond to it here, it was gone. I'm going to guess I accidentally did something because I'm a tech dummy, but wanted you to know that I did see it and am sorry for what you experienced. I'm so glad that you found your way - it's never too late to accept and love yourself! I really appreciate what you bring to this space.

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Reine's avatar

I think it was my fault. I recall losing something when making space in the wrong 😑 space.

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Jonji's avatar

I'm incredibly sorry; you're very brave. Times have changed for most, happily.

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Jonji's avatar

Maureen, I just got an email about your gift. As I had no other access to thank you for your incredible generosity, I'm doing it here. Sending you all great blessings and loving vibes 💓💓💓💓💓 I also have a non-binary adult child, so, 2 of my 3 are queer. I'm so proud of my rainbow family 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

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Reine's avatar

♥️

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Helen Stajninger's avatar

You covered so much in this post Mary! Thank you as always!

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gywn's avatar

Simply because the sun is shining, it's a Gay Day! ☀

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John M Pillin Jr's avatar

Great Take

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Debra Billard's avatar

Gay gay gay gay gay gay gay!!!

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Caroline Grevelle's avatar

Thank you for this post, Mary. I had not heard the "Don't Say Gay" bill as "Anti- Grooming" bill, either.

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Caroline Grevelle's avatar

Also, Joe Manchin revealed his true intentions, not his label, at Biden's SOTU address.

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Caroline Good's avatar

Manchin I think signaled he'll be switching parties.

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Caroline Grevelle's avatar

I wonder.

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Reine's avatar

I hadn’t either.

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Lina Reinert's avatar

Another ridiculous proposal by the people who want to ignore the rights of people who have the God given right to stand up for their lives . The dark ages are gone!!! The younger generations will prevail over these dinosaurs that still live among us! I am so ashamed of my generation that there are so many still living in the past. Wake up! We are all human and all have to respect other people REGARDLESS of their belief.

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Ronda C.'s avatar

Happy International Women's Day to everyone! Thank you for compiling all of this information, Mary. So much greed, narcissism, insecurity, and fear on display, especially by the Republicans. Plus incompetence (or complicity? not sure exactly) by the media. Like a couple others mentioned, I wasn't aware of the Florida spokeswoman's reference to "anti-grooming." Sounds reminiscent of Anita Bryant - wasn't she also from Florida? So parents who seek gender affirming and supportive treatment for trans children are child abusers, and teachers who discuss sexual orientation or gender identity are groomers/pedophiles. Nice. I recognize these sentiments never went away or fully changed despite the gains that have been made by/on behalf of the LGBTQ community, but to see formalization of them again via law is infuriating and despicable. Thanks for including VP Harris' quote from Alabama this week - I'll choose to focus on that and the need for the majority of us to stick together and march on. Oh, and absofuckinglutely GAY, GAY, GAY! (Pardon the language, but it seems warranted).

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Donald ZEPP's avatar

I'm a 77-year-old, priveleged white male who says thanks for this—it was stirring enough to make me subscribe in order to support you, your voice, and human decency.

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Donald ZEPP's avatar

(And who, despite all outward appearances, actually does know how to spell "privileged.". 🥴)

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